Yesterday, Monday, March 8th, 2021, was International Women’s Day. For those of you who are not aware of what this is, essentially, it is a day dedicated to celebrating women’s rights, as well as women’s achievements and accomplishments. It is a day to commemorate feminism, equal rights, and ultimately, women! In tribute to this, I thought it would be appropriate to discuss confidence, assertiveness, and empowerment, specifically for women like me!
Being confident is something that I have struggled with in the past, and still struggle with occasionally today. However, confidence is an important part of life and living happily, healthily and successfully. While there are many times when I feel insecure, and not very confident at all, I try my best to find some things in my life or things about that I should be proud of. For example, I reflect on my life achievements, in school particularly, and use these things to reinforce the way that I feel about myself. This is a useful tool for me, as I am able to recognize the amazing person that I am. Finding things that you like about yourself is super important, instead of thinking negatively and picking out flaws. This goes for the way you look, as well! There is also the idea to “fake it until you make it”, which can be a useful tool as long as you remain authentic to who you are. Confidence is about being comfortable in your own skin, not changing yourself to please others!
I feel most confident when I am being unapologetically myself.
When you feel confident about yourself, not only will you feel good, but others will also be attracted or drawn to your aura. However, the most important part is making yourself happy. There is a lot to be confident about – being yourself is amazing!
With confidence comes the ability to become assertive. Part of assertiveness is prioritizing yourself, standing up for what you believe in, and putting your needs before others (it’s not selfish, I promise!). This is something that I am actually working on in therapy, as I tend to be a “people pleaser”, and am worried about what others will think or letting others down if I say no. However, I think that being assertive is important so that people don’t walk all over you. While it is always good to be a nice person and to be kind to those around you, it is even more important to look out for yourself first. This goes for all aspects of life, including personal life and career. When you are assertive, people will learn to take you seriously. Furthermore, you will be able to communicate your thoughts, wishes and needs better, and will therefore feel more fulfilled in life! As women, it is more difficult to be assertive as people may view us as being rude or aggressive (which is especially the case in various careers). However, this should not stop us. Being assertive is a valuable trait to uphold, and I recommend that we all work on it!
Feeling empowered is just as important as feeling confident and assertive. To feel empowered, I try my best to be confident in myself and in my decisions, and use that to be assertive. However, another important aspect of empowerment that I have found is surrounding myself with people that uplift me, as well as finding environments that make me feel my best. I have experienced multiple friendships where the people I have associated with have not made me feel my best. Ultimately, I have learned many lessons and have made the decision to end those friendships. Based on my personal experiences, I think that surrounding yourself with people who make you feel your best is a way to achieve empowerment. This does not only go for friendships, it counts in any relationship – with your family, with your partner, or with whoever! When you feel empowered, you can also empower others too. Additionally, I tend to feel empowered in certain environments that make me feel confident. For me, this is how I feel when I am in a classroom, as I am pursing a career in teaching. Working with children is something that I am passionate about, and this becomes evident when I am in these environments. To feel empowered, I recommend finding something that you love to do, or a place where you love to be. These things will make you feel like you can do anything that you set your mind to!
I feel empowered when I am in the classroom!
Part of being able to live your best life is to be able to achieve confidence, assertiveness and empowerment. Although I sometimes struggle with these things myself, I try to be open-minded, and also remember to be proud of myself and my accomplishments in some way. While it may not seem like a lot, simply getting out of bed in the morning is something to be proud of! There is value in recognizing that not every day and not everything will always be perfect. Imperfection is entirely okay. Furthermore, it is important to trust who you are and to simply be yourself. If you embrace yourself and your own uniqueness, confidence will follow you. You will then be able to be assertive and thus, feel empowered. Yes, it is easier said than done, but I know we can do it together!
“i want to apologize to all the women i have called beautiful
before i’ve called them intelligent or brave
i am sorry i made it sound as though
something as simple as what you’re born with
is all you have to be proud of
when you have broken mountains with your wit
from now on i will say things like
you are resilient, or you are extraordinary
not because i don’t think you’re beautiful
but because i need you to know
you are more than that”
― Rupi Kaur
Yours from afar,
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